If kids can’t socialize, who should parents blame? Simple: They should blame themselves. This is the argument advanced in It’s Complicated: The Social Lives of Networked Teens, by Microsoft researcher Danah Boyd. Boyd—full disclosure, a friend of mine—has spent a decade interviewing hundreds of teens about their online lives.

What she has found, over and over, is that teenagers would love to socialize face-to-face with their friends. But adult society won’t let them. “Teens aren’t addicted to social media. They’re addicted to each other,” Boyd says. “They’re not allowed to hang out the way you and I did, so they’ve moved it online.”

It’s true. As a teenager in the early ’80s I could roam pretty widely with my friends, as long as we were back by dark. But over the next three decades, the media began delivering a metronomic diet of horrifying but rare child-abduction stories, and parents shortened the leash on their kids. Politicians warned of incipient waves of youth wilding and superpredators (neither of which emerged). Municipalities crafted anti-loitering laws and curfews to keep young people from congregating alone. New neighborhoods had fewer public spaces. Crime rates plummeted, but moral panic soared. Meanwhile, increased competition to get into college meant well-off parents began heavily scheduling their kids’ after-school lives.

The result, Boyd discovered, is that today’s teens have neither the time nor the freedom to hang out. So their avid migration to social media is a rational response to a crazy situation. They’d rather socialize F2F, so long as it’s unstructured and away from grown-ups. “I don’t care where,” one told Boyd wistfully, “just not home.” —

Don’t Blame Social Media if Your Teen Is Unsocial. It’s Your Fault | Wired Opinion | Wired.com (via brutereason)

And also everything is expensive. There’s nowhere to go for cheap thrills.

(via ceborgia)

[long… personal post below]

all i’ve ever wanted was to go out and spend time with people. with friends
having things unplanned and outside and going wherever and having the freedom (physically, socially) to do so
and it’s not like my parents have been that controlling. Like the minute i realised the notion of being ‘disallowed’ to do something didn’t matter because you *could* do it anyway was the same time my mother realised i’d do what i wanted and i was in control of that, being ‘disallowed’ didn’t change that
and i have that freedom because i grew up knowing i could, or at least i had the situation where i could take that ability to do as i pleased because i knew what i was doing and my own version of what i thought was right and wrong for me to be doing or going out etc

but to me so many of my friends don’t seem like they have that freedom or have reached that conclusion from how they’re raised
and we left school this week for good, and one guy i know, a guy who grew to hate the education system and hate school and felt trapped, this weekend i heard him saying ‘i don’t want to go now’
and i get it
because in the last few weeks in particular we’ve had so much free time in school
and yeah we’re stuck in there (literally the gates are locked and free lessons does not = able to go out) but we’ve all just hung out and had fun and we’ve had more parties and we’ve spent more time chilling
and now we’re not in a situation where all of us are together at once, and none of us live close, and it’s suddenly seemed to dawn on them that we can’t keep together anymore because there’s no way for us to get to one another since we all live such far distances from one another since it’s an international school and people live all over the shop

we’ve not got the chance to be disorganised together because there’s always something in the way which is not being able t get places, we have no autonomy in terms of getting to one another which means there’ll be no more large group, 

and so yeah me too i don’t want to go but i’ve known that since january. As soon as the end was in sight i knew there’d be no way for us all to stay to socialise with one another

ughhhhhhhhhhhhh but that’s such an individual case i think because of the distance

but now that we HAVE the free time we’re not in a situation where we can wield it and i’d love to just spend all my time with my friends away from the representative constraint of parents/adults

Here are three elements we often see in town names:

If a town ends in “-by”, it was originally a farmstead or a small village where some of the Viking invaders settled. The first part of the name sometimes referred to the person who owned the farm - Grimsby was “Grim’s village”. Derby was “a village where deer were found”. The word “by” still means “town” in Danish.

If a town ends in “-ing”, it tells us about the people who lived there. Reading means “The people of Reada”, in other words “Reada’s family or tribe”. We don’t know who Reada was, but his name means “red one”, so he probably had red hair.

If a town ends in “-caster” or “-chester”, it was originally a Roman fort or town. The word comes from a Latin words “castra”, meaning a camp or fortification. The first part of the name is usually the name of the locality where the fort was built. So Lancaster, for example, is “the Roman fort on the River Lune”.

—A Little Book of Language by David Crystal, page 173. (via linguaphilioist)

anyway i’m going to spend the day eating chocolate and watching game of thrones

i bought this new crop top online and it arrived the other day, only the cut of it means it should probably be worn without a bra (which obviously is not an option for me) (it should totally be worn without a bra it looks fucking stupid with a bra)

however it’s incredibly small and awesomely stretchy and is now my new running top 

and on tuesday i will design my tattoo a bit and i will organise the biology revision day
and on the weekend i will go into toulouse and find the right tattoo parlour and ask how much and when
and then i will save up and get it.

i just want to be lean and learned

tomorrow i’m going to get up and get a healthy(ish) breakfast, and i will do my little work out, and i will cycle 5km, and i will tidy my room and i will start doing revision. Or rather i’ll spend the day organising how i’m going to revise for the next week

this means i have to finish all of game of thrones tonight this is a challenge i must defeat

oh hey but on thursday we dissected a rat in class

looks like i’m doing animation at university

disneys-the-shiz-ney:

mishawinsexster:

#dude had she not decided to sing about her plan she probably would have gotten away with it

#every villain’s demise ever

i’m not okay

oh jesus christ i fb messged boy last night threatening him if he hurt my friend

★     LANAWINTIRS